Using the Mind to Improve Your Personal Life

Use mind to Improve personal life

Using your mind to improve personal life is a great start to achieving. When you use your mind, you set out to gain qualities that guide you in the right direction.

To use your mind to improve your life consider:

  1. Commitments:
  2. Skills:
  3. Priorities:
  4. Failure:
  5. Saying no:
  6. Rules:
  7. Trial rides:

1. Commitments:

We all have commitments. Commitment is a part of life. When you have commitments, you enter into promises that you will get something done. Start making commitments to you. I commit to change habits that hinder me from achieving my goals or improving my personal life.

2. Skills:

Evaluate your skills to see how you can use them to better your life. While you are evaluating your skills, look for new skills. Reach deep inside you, accept the discomforts, fears, or things you do not like, look past them and find new skills.

3. Priorities:

Do you have your priorities straight? Do you have all your plans in perspective? Re-evaluate your plans to make sure that you are on the right path to improve your personal life. If you notice areas you can improve, don’t be afraid to take action. Taking action is the last step you will take in anything you do that helps to improve your life.

4. Failure:

How do you view failure? Failure upside down is an achievement. Failure is common and happens to all of us daily. Failure helps us to learn how to develop and grow into a better person. If you sit around stressing failure, then you are heading nowhere quick. Failure is a part of life. You have failure around you, in you, and in your future. Learn from your failures, accept your blame and move to make things better for you.

5. Saying no:

People hear the word no and fear it. No is not a rejection, rather no is a positive action you take to spare your future. When you say no I am not going to the bar, you are saying I have better things to do than waste my time in a building filled with drunks. Sometimes you have to tell someone you love no. For instance, you may have to tell your mate no when he or she asks you to watch television when you know you have to study. Don’t let your mate hold you back. It is ok to say no.

6. Rules:

We all follow rules. Rules are a part of life, but sometimes the rules are hard to digest. You have to learn to open up your passageway and digest them anyway unless you are willing to stand up and protest in a positive way. People complaining about rules they don’t like and not taking action is wasting everyone’s time. You have the power, yet it takes you to use that power.

7. Trial rides:

Life is filled with Trial rides. Every day we walk out our door we are either on a Bad or Good Trial ride. But how do you handle trials? If you are willing to take risks in life, likely you handle trials well. On the other hand, if you fear changes, then you will need to find a way to deal with the trials in life. Unfortunately, too many people deal with these trials by drinking excessively or drugging. Don’t be one of these people.

You have many options in life. Good options and bad options will come your very each day. Sometimes you will choose bad options, yet when you make mistakes, don’t dwell rather pull up your resources to see how you could have done things differently, and do it differently the next time.

10 ways to empower your communication

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“A Piece of Blarney Stone” 10 ways to empower your communication

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about the conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go through watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as a guest presenter taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.

It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as a human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it, you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.
And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

10 questions you should ask yourself

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10 questions you should ask to yourself: a preparation to self-improvement

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course, it’s hard to think of anything else when and where are real issues to be discussed.

Still, I aspire to something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly, it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

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5 Easy Steps to Enhance your Self-Confidence

5 Easy Steps to Enhance your Self-Confidence

We all admire self-confident people since they like taking risks and face their worries head on.  They also respect themselves and are optimistic. Low self-esteem is not permanent; you can slowly change how you feel about yourself by applying basic tips on a daily basis.

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” Vincent Van Gogh

Here is a list of 5 easy steps to enhance your self-confidence.

1. Avoid Negativity and Stay Positive

If you hang around friends and family that do not see things in positive light, it is time you took a break from them. Avoid people who put you down and embrace positive enthusiasm in your interactions with others. Learn to focus on solutions rather than problems in your life and you will gradually make positive changes. Also, practice positive self-talk and your feelings about self will improve and enable you to face your obstacles without much hesitation.

2. Eliminate Negative Voices in your Head

This is related to the first step. Your thoughts become your reality. Negative thoughts in our minds shred our self-confidence and discourage us from facing daily obstacles. If you think that you are not good enough and keep on bashing yourself, be mindful, as this may become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Learn to appreciate who you are and switch from negative to positive thoughts until you boost your self-esteem.

3. Enhance your Body Language

You not only need to feel confident on the inside, but you also need to show it to those you interact with. Smiling makes you feel better and lets people feel comfortable around you. Pulling your shoulders back creates the impression that you are confident. Practice to look at people straight into the eyes, and they will believe in whatever you have to say. Research shows that people who take the time to speak feel more confident and appear to have a high self-assurance than those who do not.

4. Believe that you are Competent

Always remind yourself of the problems you have encountered and tackled in the past. Learn to face new challenges and prove to yourself that you can rather than saying to yourself you cannot. Whenever you face a challenge you cannot deal with, try to reach out for help. This improves your capabilities and encourages you to face challenges head-on. Concentrate on your successes no matter how modest they are and keep a mental note. Besides, learn to give yourself some credit whenever you solve a task.

5. Avoid comparing yourself to others

Rather than comparing your worth to others, focus on your niche and appreciate the things you are good at. Everyone is great at something and comparing your worth to others only shreds your self-esteem. Focus on your strengths, and your self-confidence will grow. Also, learn new stuff and develop your competencies and value.

Learn to face your fears and apply the above steps daily to boost your self-confidence.

7 Tips on How to Make Better Decisions in Life

7 Tips on How to Make Better Decisions in Life

Choices have consequences, and we have to make decisions for our future selves, whether we like it or not. Rational decision-making is essential for a good outcome, and we have to consider all perspectives before passing a verdict. You need to consider the views of others regarding a difficult situation and then make the decision on your own.

“Trust your instincts, and make judgments on what your heart tells you. The heart will not betray you.” David Gemmell.

Below is a list of 7 tips on how to make better decisions in life.

1.   Know your goals

You need to know what you want in your life to make rational and sound decisions. Self-reflection helps in the evaluation of targets and results in better decisions. Learn to make decisions based on what you want and evaluate the impact of choice in your future. If your decisions affect your future negatively, it is wise to change your mind no matter how tough that resolution might be.

2.   Seek advice but make a choice individually

Besides your perspective, you need to have other people’s views to make a decision you will not regret. Asking the opinion of others helps in weighing your options objectively and avoid subjective and erroneous decision-making. However, you face the consequences of a decision on your own. Therefore, it is wise to follow your instincts as failure to do so may result in a less empowering direction.

3.   Follow your gut

No one knows you better than you do. Writing down your thoughts and reason for the thoughts before making a tough decision aids in making better decisions. Having an internal dialogue with yourself helps in seeing things more clearly resulting in an excellent resolution.

4.   Ensure you are in the right mental condition

You can easily make wrong decisions when in a bad mood, stressed or sleepy. When making important decisions, you need to feel comfortable to avoid irrelevant factors that may hinder you from reaching a good conclusion. Stress makes you question your rationale and increases your worries that inhibit you from passing a reasonable resolution.

5.   Trust yourself

Nobody can be supportive of you as consistently as you can. You can increase your self-confidence by being kind to yourself and lower your need for approval from others. Believing in yourself makes it easy to make life-changing decisions without over relying on the views of others.

6.   Practice making decisions

Making decisions on a daily basis helps in trusting your actions and skills in decision-making. It makes you feel more in control and helps make better decisions without the influence of others.

7.   Eliminate yourself from the situation

Rather than thinking about a problem from a first person perspective, learn to think as an outside observer. Solving a dilemma from a third party perspective enables you to use rational reasoning by considering others’ perspectives and different ways things could unfold.

Following these steps will improve your decision-making and eliminate the fear of making irrational decisions.